cloud 9 blog

we all know how shit real life can be at times and we find ourselves looking for things or ways to escape it. by escaping it i mean being dragged into that awesome book you are reading, playing that computer game or spending your time on the waves. you just want to get away from all the issue of the world and sink away into your own reality or into someone else’s world where you do not have to worry about that deadline next week or that damn bond you have to pay at the end of the month.

being pulled into things like this makes us happy and not give a rats ass about the real world. it’s needed. we need to escape reality and not have to stress, worry or get angry at things. my wife loves to get lost into books or into her tv shows and she could sit for hours on end doing it. i on the other hand could sit for hours on end playing computer games. everyone has their own “fix”.

i played world of warcraft for a few years and quit last year. yes, people say that it is addictive. i admit it is, BUT for me, it was my escape from reality. what i am trying to say is, when you find that something that takes you away from reality and makes you not worry about real life things, it will make you want to go there more often, which might lead to this addictiveness. what other people may see as addictive, to you it will seem like an escape and that is where some people don’t see eye to eye because they don’t understand why. why is he always working on his car? why is she always reading that book? it’s because they love doing it and makes them escape reality. one just needs to understand their thinking AND one needs to communicate with the other people and come to some sort of common ground.

on there other hand it does have its negatives. if you have a family, girlfriend or friends, you tend to neglect them and not spend as much time with them because you would rather be in your own world. it’s like a mother who has 3 nagging kids ringing in her ears and all you want to do is escape into that book and not give two hoots about it. you have to admit, you would rather have peace and quiet than 3 kids making your life difficult and that is what makes us long for that escapism.

finding that balance is hard. i have trouble with finding that balance and am still working on it.

what is your fix, how do you deal with it and how does it affect your relationship with your friends or family?